Boss for the Day

fighting-coupleAre you fighting too much with your partner, travelling companion, or your sibling?  Then try this rule:

Boss for the Day

Here’s a tip on how to handle the non-critical decisions in everyday life.

You can negotiate and reach an agreement on any major decisions, but for the trivial daily decisions such as what to eat, what brand of milk to buy,  which birthday card to pick, what time to eat, which movie to watch…. take turn on being the BOSS FOR THE DAY.  When you are the boss for the day, you make the decision.  If things don’t turn out the way you expected, just face the consequence, accept the blame.

Many times, one person wants to make the decision, and another may not want to make the decision, but wants to veto a decision or complain.  So this solution makes it fair.

This does not mean that you have to enforce this rule all the time, but should a disagreement occur on where, what and how, then the boss for the day can step in and just make the defining decision.

In the case of Adam and Eve,  Adam is boss on Monday, Wednesday and Friday, Eve is boss on Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday.  If Adam feels like pizza on Monday, and Eve wants to go to a Chinese restaurant, Adam being the boss for the day, can just say PIZZA.  He can choose to be nice to Eve and let her have her way, knowing that when Eve gets her turn, she can also choose to let Adam have his way.    The boss for the day can also choose to be noble or generous.

After all, isn’t that what friendship or love is all about?  That you care about the other person, but at the same time, you don’t want to feel being dictated to, or having to give in constantly? That it is about cooperation and fairness?  Even the monkeys demand fairness.  (See the videoclip)  So try it!

(This rule might not be practical in certain authoritarian or paternalistic culture.  But hey, this is perfectly fine here in Canada).

8 comments on “Boss for the Day

  1. The “Boss for the Day” Rule or idea is borrowed from my parents-in-laws who are both headstrong, yet stay married all their lives, and are

    very happy in their relationship. They also practice this rule when they travel with friends.

  2. This is a very interesting idea! It’s always hard when two very stubborn people are trying to make a decision. For short-term purposes, I think boss for a day sounds like a good idea. But for long-term and important decisions, I don’t see how this can work. It really depends on two people who are very flexible and open-minded and these types of people usually don’t get stuck in arguments to make decision in the first place. Still, I like this article and I look forward to reading more on your site!

  3. That is a very interesting tactic towards harmony. I rarely fight with someone or argue as I always give way but having discovered this theory of boss of the day, I may try and suggest this to very close friends and household mate. :)Great idea!

  4. I’m living in the Philippines and your blog entitled “Boss for the Day” offers great advice to prevent conflicts and ugly disagreements about small and big stuffs. Your site layout is nicely done and full of interesting articles all through-out the page. Thanks for sharing. .

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  6. A thought provoking post … It does make sense to use ‘Boss of the Day’ amongst people or couples who are both headstrong as it can help prevent the minor arguments that can stem up.

    Also really liked the monkey video :) I have actually seen it once before but never saved it – so thanks for sharing !

  7. I like the idea. Sometimes, it gets long before a decision was made just because both of you wanted your better half to decide.

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